Many people lack the confidence that they need to be better in bed, so their partners suffer, and they do it themselves. We all want to express ourselves sexually, and yet we hold ourselves back due to our upbringing and the way society views sex in general. It is very important to experience pleasure and intimacy in the bedroom, and so if you’re not getting both of these things, then you are going to suffer emotionally and physically. If you’re not feeling confident about your lovemaking, then it’s likely that you’re not going to be great between sheets, and so this is something that you need to address today.
One of the first things that you could do is get yourself down to your local adult shop where you will find a true Aladdin’s cave of many things that can help you to be better in bed and can allow you to surprise your partner. Ideally, you should always try to talk to your partner first before buying any kind of sex toy or sex clothing, but if you want it to be a surprise, then you can take a chance and see what happens. It’s all about trying to look sexier in the bedroom and become a great lover. The following are just some of the things that can teach you how to be better in bed.
- Be the initiator – It can be sexually thrilling when you become the person who initiates sex, and you could have sex anywhere in your home and not just in the bedroom. By approaching your partner and trying to initiate sex, you are showing them that you still find them incredibly attractive, and they will see this is a very confident move. They will become incredibly aroused knowing that you still want to make love to them.
- Set the mood – Everyone, and indeed every man, wants to be wined and dined because it gets them in the right frame of mind and it also gets them ready for sex. You can look at cooking a meal or running a bath for your partner as the first part of foreplay, and it is an excellent way to increase overall excitement and your desirability as well.
- Try some different positions – You can get yourself into a sexual rut and keep doing the same position every single time because it feels great for you. Due to your lack of communication, this may not be a position that your partner particularly enjoys, so maybe it’s time that you incorporated some different positions into your lovemaking. There are many books out there that you can find at the local adult shop that can show you all of the different positions that are entirely possible if you put a little bit of effort into it.
Rather than turning the lights off every time that you and your partner want to have sex, maybe next time, leave the lights on and really see what it is that your partner wants and needs.
